That is the question.
Naomi's night's continue to be unsettled, though she has gone back to waking only once or twice a night, which for her age is pretty good, it just feels horrific because she gave us 3 or 4 weeks of sleeping through the night which led us into a place of false security.
On top of that she seems to be taking longer to settle at nights. We normally feed to sleep and then put her down, sometimes she wakes during the transfer but a quick bounce from her mummy sees her back to sleep and off we go. Recently though she has been waking up during the transfer and then needing bounced/rocked/sung to for 30 minutes or so before she goes down. Last night it took 2 hours! This saw her Dad and I sitting down for a few minutes before 10pm came round and exhausted we went off to bed!
This then brought up the subject of controlled crying and more to the point should we or shouldn't we. My husband and I are probably both of the opinion that it will need to happen at some point, though I am more inclined to say she is too little now. What, though, are the alternatives. We can continue to bounce her as much as she needs which may drive us to the point of distraction, though might preserve our sanity by saving us from the tears. Is there anything else, though?
I got quite annoyed yesterday having had a moan about things then having lots of people tell me how they got their little ones to sleep but no-one taking into account that Naomi is her own wee self and not a carbon copy of their babies. People told me to have a routine, this annoyed me because we have one. People told me to keep her up in the day, despite the fact that not napping got us into a terrible pickle with crying for hours on end for other reasons. People told me to do controlled crying straight away and others told me to wait.
I get annoyed not because people offer me advice, however, but because there seems to be so much conflicting advice and even evidence, and no clear answers whatsoever. My husband and I are exhausted and we need to get this sorted and yet no one is even able let alone willing to help us with anything definitive.
Did/do you do controlled crying? What age was your wee one when you did? How do you preserve your sanity throughout the months of sleep deprivation?
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